Symbolism of gifts is important in the Chinese culture.
In Chinese culture, objects, colors and numbers all have special meaning. Be aware of these when selecting and wrapping gifts for your Chinese fiance's father. Some items that don't make good gifts are sharp objects--such as scissors, a letter opener or knife--which symbolize breaking a relationship. Do not give anything in sets of four, an unlucky number, or in single or odd numbers, which represent loneliness. Clocks and handkerchiefs represent death or funerals. Avoid shoes and hats.
There are cultural differences in the way gifts are presented and received, as well. The gift wrapping has special meaning in Chinese culture. Gifts should be wrapped in a box or gift bag and offered with both hands. Red and gold are best for gift paper, bags and boxes. Red represents luck; pink and yellow represent happiness. The colors white, blue or black are associated with funerals and should not be used for gifts or wrapping.
Leather Items
Although leather items may be offensive in some cultures, these are appreciated by the Chinese. A leather briefcase, organizer or address book make good gifts. Some things are better as romantic gifts, not for a prospective father-in-law. Avoid belts, which mean you want to "hold him forever."
Electronics
Electronic gadgets make good gifts, especially if your prospective father-in-law is a businessman. Consider a PDA (personal digital assistant), also called a "hand held" or "palmtop." An MP3 player that lets you play music on the go makes a great gift. A combination device such as an iPod or smart phone combines the features of a PDA, MP3 player, computer and telephone but are more expensive and require internet and cell phone access.
Food and Drink
Former custom called for the groom to give the bride's family live fish or poultry, a fruit basket and other food signifying good luck. Today the Chinese still appreciate food (but probably not livestock), as well as gifts from the giver's home country or items they can't get in China. If your fiance's father drinks, consider a fine cognac, whiskey or wine (given in pairs for good luck). Fine chocolates also make a good gift and are usually appreciated.
Pens
Fine writing instruments make ideal gifts. Consider giving him a good pen, or a pen and pencil set. But be sure the pen isn't filled with red ink, which is bad luck.
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